You may have spent hours on Facebook and Instagram looking at the lives of others and thought to yourself: “What a wonderful life she/he has.” Your colleague is promoted and you may have thought: “She/he has gotten ahead. I am still here.” If you are constantly in a pointless pursuit to become this overachiever best-at-everything person, chasing after material things (a swank car, a luxury home, expensive vacations, and such) and “getting ahead in life,” then you are in a rat race.
The dictionary describes rat race as a “strenuous, wearisome, and usually competitive activity or rush” and as “an exhausting, repetitive lifestyle that leaves no time for relaxation or enjoyment.” The idea behind this race is to get ahead financially. When all you want is money and more money, you spend all your energies toward getting that. And soon you realize that it is not enough, you want more. In this quest to get ahead, you sacrifice life and cease to live and enjoy it.
If you are racing at the cost of your happiness and peace, STOP. Your natural pace is what gives you peace, not create stress inside you. Everything around moves at its own pace.
The sun isn’t rushing to rise or set, the leaves aren’t rushing to bloom or fall, time isn’t running faster than it should. When everything has its own pace, why are you running? Step out of the rat race and set your own pace. Live your own life at your own pace. Nothing matters in the end. You were born empty handed and you will die empty handed. So look around and find your purpose.
In this era of social media, it is hard to ignore what others are doing, but your life is your own and it can never be like anyone else’s. It is unique. Everyone is trying to reach somewhere, you are too. But that doesn’t mean you will shatter your inner peace to get to your destination.
Society may have set some definition of what success is or should be, but find your own definition of success. Do not let others’ definition of success dictate your life.
That doesn’t mean their lives are a series of happy-only events. Also rethink about social media as such; that might not represent the real world overall. Apart from that, many people have gone through struggles and failures to get where they are now. And your destination is different, so should your pace.
Be honest with yourself. Look within. Search for what you want from life not what you think others expect you to get. Find what truly makes you happy and just follow that, at your own sweet speed. Live each moment of your life. Celebrate it. Have faith in your abilities and be patient with yourself. You are very able to get there. Life sorts itself out all the time. So believe in yourself and set your own path, pace and position. It’s your life, not someone else’s.
Be thankful for what you have and give as much as you can. Share your experiences and encourage others around you. Make your life more meaningful.
Jasmin Waldmann is a well renowned international Life Coach. She guides people of any age, occupations, gender or nationality to work on their charisma, inner balance, guide how to become more successful and boost mental and physical health – and this counts for business and private life. Jasmin helps in a team-character way to a life full of joy and satisfaction.